Mom and Grandma moved into my apartment during the pandemic. I don't know what my limits or responsibilities should be as far as helping them.

2021.10.16 13:10 OneDayAshore Mom and Grandma moved into my apartment during the pandemic. I don't know what my limits or responsibilities should be as far as helping them.

This one may be a bit of a mess to sort through; if so I apologize in advance. I'm 27M, single, and living in my ex's apartment because it's cheap. I'd been making plans to move out into a different unit when the quarantine started hitting, and at that same time, my mom (sixties) needed a place to go. She's always been really bad with money, never developed a solid career path and went from minimum-wage job to minimum-wage job, even after graduating college with a lot of debt. The last few years have been tough on our family with multiple deaths affecting her specifically, and for awhile she was basically one step above homeless and renting rooms from whoever she could. Her last housemate evicted her out of fear of the virus, and I offered her my second bedroom and put a pause on moving out. I have feelings of guilt being in this place due to the situation with my ex, but it was the best I could do for Mom at the time. A few months later, Mom moved her own mother in here as well (for reference this is a 2b1ba; Mom sleeps in the living room). Grandma (eighties) was even worse with money/career etc and spent the last 40+ years living off of someone else's dole, so when that person died she only had a few thousand dollars in savings. They're both living primarily off social security and what little has been saved up, while Mom still has tremendous debt to burn through with no plan to tackle it. She has a part-time job for spending money but is trying to retire and just live off the fixed income instead.
By contrast, I'm doing better financially than I ever have been before. The pandemic forced me to make some changes in life, and for the last year I've been working over full-time and put my college education on hold. Got a better job, tripled my income with both higher pay and longer hours (I work 60-70 hrs a week), spent the last 12 months knocking out my own debts, and am currently making more than I would be even if I had finished my degree by now. For perspective, I went from making $26k average to $75k+ over the last year and will likely grow my income more if I stay with this job. I'm grateful for being in that good of a spot when so many others are hurting, and this isn't meant to be bragging, but it is helpful for context. Should I use some of my own income to get a bigger place for the three of us, even if it technically isn't my responsibility to do so? I have four older siblings who all either can't or won't deal with Mom/Grandma for their own reasons, and to a certain extent I don't blame them, but in doing so the burden seems to have fallen on to me. Part of me wants my own life back, to get away from working so many hours and focus more on college like I was before, but I can't do so without a significant cut in income. That would hamper my ability to help my family, and so the other part of me is thinking I should just forget about college and focus on the career track I'm on now for their sake, at least until Grandma's gone which could be a few years. I'm trying to show compassion to both of them by recognizing how poor their own situations have been, but I also feel that the choices they've made over the years are having a serious negative effect on me and I shouldn't be responsible for them. What should I do here?
TL;DR: a 60+-y.o.+ and an 80+-y.o. lady moved in with a 20+y.o. college student. They have no money, I do. Should I help get them into a better place or not?
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2021.10.16 13:10 _dramafairy For boy fans... How was it for you ,being a boy, to like the Winx Club?

I don't really remember how I discovered Winx Club...I think i was around 4-5 years old when the show came to Greece and literally every toy store was full of Winx Club dolls. My parents wouldn't easily buy me dolls,i remember my grandma would take me to the toystore whenever she was visiting and let me choose whatever doll I wanted. And I remember I would always pick a Winx doll.
My other grandma i remember, sometimes my mother as well, were started bying me the season 1 episodes in DVD and i was watching it everyday(i still have them T_T)..And later a channel put season 4 and I was watching it sometimes (yh sadly i hadn't seen s2 and 3 when I was a child)..
But well i had to ''keep it a secret'' that i like Winx cause you know...''iT's OnLy FoR gIrLs''
(I even remember when I went with my grandma to buy the new Winx dvd -they were coming out once a week- and my grandma asked it for the DVD the seller was like ''Is it for him? Cause that's for girls only''...And i felt so sad and ashamed at that moment...Now im thinking of it and im just laughing.)
and anyways when i turned 6 or seven years old, it was forbidden for me to ever watch Winx again,my dolls went to trash, cause yk that would ''TuRn Me GaY''(though well Winx helped me realised im gay but anyways lol)
A few years later when Nickelodeon produced the Winx Club i was around 10 years old? and i was watching it -rarely though-in secret...
Well last summer I started rewatching Winx Club from season 1 to yt and it felt so good, I started collecting some dolls again-sadly some of the dolls i had are way too expensive nowadays- and since i have come out for some reason it's not forbidden for me to like the Winx but it helps that my mom is way more open minded than she used to be...
Lol so many memories T_T...
Anyways,how was it for you as a boy, liking the Winx Club?
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